By: Scott Steinberg
As you may have noticed if you’re single, finding someone special can be challenging at times – and as a veteran dating columnist and nightlife trends expert, I don’t say that lightly. Thankfully, whether you’re interested in casual, serious, or passing relationships, with a few simple shifts in thinking, it’s easy to step up your game, and send your prospects soaring. Here are five hints and tips to help you navigate the wild world of modern and online dating – and five ways to have more fun on the scene.
- BE DIFFERENT – For starters, remember – if all you do is fit in, you’ll never stand out. To catch people’s attention, be different and be unique. Both in online profiles and in person, stand out at a glance and show others what makes you one of a kind – it’ll help you quickly capture attention, eliminate those who aren’t interested, and more rapidly find people who’ll like you for who you really are.
- STICK TO YOUR GUNS – As a second tip, always be yourself, and don’t try to radically change your behavior or perspective because you think it’s what someone else wants. Even if your opinions differ, the right ones will appreciate you for you. Listen carefully in conversation: You can tell when someone’s trying to tell you what you want to hear – not what they’re really thinking.
- USE THE TOOLS PROVIDED – Third, don’t be afraid to use online dating sites. Dozens of services like Tinder, Bumble, Match, Hinge and Happen offer helpful solutions for meeting people, and many offer more time and opportunity to get to know them than chance encounters at bar. Why not use all the great tools you’ve got for meeting someone special?
- TAKE YOUR TIME – Fourth – don’t rush it, and don’t settle, which never ends well. You don’t have be in a relationship, married, or have kids just to say you did. Take time to enjoy yourself, accomplish your goals, and get to know whether a potential match is really the right fit. When the time is right to make a life change, you’ll know.
- KEEP AN OPEN MIND – Last, stop treating matches like potential work hires, complete with checklists of physical qualities you’re looking for. Instead, give everyone a chance – you’d be amazed who you meet when you open your mind broaden your horizons. My personal “type”? Well, they’re simply smart, scrappy, and good-natured – just like you.
Now go get ‘em, tiger! Remember: You’re one in a million, and I’m already a fan – there’s someone out there for you, and they’ll recognize that too.
Award-winning professional speaker and trends expert Scott Steinberg is the founder of SELECT nightlife and entertainment magazine, and the author of Millennial Marketing: Bridging the Generation Gap. Among today’s leading providers of keynote speeches, workshops and seminars for Fortune 500 firms, his website is www.AKeynoteSpeaker.com.
